Was chatting with dad just now and I came to realise something about my family.
That we are united.
I grow up in a family where my family and relatives dote on me and my siblings.
Perhaps under the good influence of my grand parents.
My aunts dote on us alot.
Invite us to stay over.
Give us nice clothes
and when we need advice,
some of my aunts will be there.
Im not close to all my aunts.
Just a few of them.
But at the very least,
none of them will say things to hurt us.
That is also why I feel a need to account to them with regards to my marriage.
Becos I know they care for me.

My mum is not close to her siblings.
As such,
we are no longer in contact.
Shouldn't it be the case?
If u are not on good terms with someone,
just break the connection instead of pretenting to be close?
I hate pretentious people.

It's until I know pp that I come to meet really really pretentious people.
That I come to know how ugly this world can get.
Sisters backstabing each other.
Saying things to hurt each other's pride and feeling.
All in all, trying their best to bring their own siblings down.
What is this??
I seriously don't know.
What are they trying to achieve?
Even when my cousins are so outstanding,
my aunts never say anything to bring my parents down.
Nothing at all.
They only say good things of both sides.
Becos no one is truly useless or worse off than the other.
Everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
So why say until one is the best while the other is nothing in comparison?
Why?
And the most unbelievable thing is some even proclaim to be close with their siblings
when they are hurting them.
Speechless.
Dad says different family has different way of life and culture.
But this is.....Unacceptable.
I really can't accept their behaviours.
I can't bring myself to respect this kind of elder.

To make everything uglier,
these people cannot accept criticism.
I'm not even talking about right front cursing and scolding of vulgarities.
It's merely commenting and pointing out their flaws and wrong doings.
And yes, they can't take it.
Hello, i'm a very straight forward person.
If i say your bag is ugly then it must be really ugly ok?
Don't assume I say that cos im jealous.
If it's nice i will say it's nice.
Don't think so much.
TYVM.
Totally no freedom of speech.
And they have to vent their incapability of accepting criticism by attacking every aspects of the person who criticised.
And resorting to cursing.
You tell me how how how to respect this kind of elders!?
ARGH
YOU ARE OLDER DOESN'T MEAN YOU CAN CURSE PEOPLE OK!

I will love my sis and bro's children in the future.
Perhaps not as much as for my own child,
but i'll definitely dote on them.
They are my siblings' children!
Why should I hurt them?
I love my parents and my siblings.
The children are my parents' grand children and my siblings' children.
I will never do anything intentionally to hurt them.
Never.

I won't attending pretentious family gathering.

I Wish Upon a Star on Sunday, March 20, 2011